When I was a teacher at Sunday school for high school and college
students, one day I had them do a little writing exercise. We were covering the topics of materialism
versus contentment so I asked each of
them to think back to when they were younger and write down the
happiest times in their lives. Can you guess what they did NOT write down?
I do not remember a single one writing things like "when I got my first
iPhone," "when I got my first barbie," or "when I was left alone to play my video games." Nope. They wrote things like "that time dad and I
did this" or "the time we spent it together doing this and that." I think back to
my own childhood and the happiest times all have to do with
spending time laughing and enjoying the company of someone that I
loved. That was especially true for the time I spent at Rolling Timbers (a
campground) where we would run around and have fun with
family and friends. Interestingly enough, it was also the time in my childhood when we were
Now that I am a mother, my husband and I have made a decision about how we are going to invest our time and money. We decided to use the lessons from our own childhoods and invest our time
interacting with our daughters even if it means working less and making
less money. What money we may have, we try using it to help build
relationships with our kids. If we buy material things, it is to help them
enjoy the relationships with their friends, grandparents, aunts, uncles,
cousins, etc. The smiles on my daughters' faces makes it all worth it.
So, if you are going to buy your kids
material things, buy them things that will encourage them to spend time
with somebody: a baseball to play catch with dad, a book to read with
mom, a board game to play with the family. If you are going to splurge,
splurge on vacations or trips together to help build memories. God
created us to love and to be loved. It is no wonder then that when we
feel loved is also when we are the happiest.
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